Resisting the temptations that could ruin your relationship

By: Taren Vaughan

When you were living the single life, it seemed like there just wasn’t a good companion out there for you. Then out of nowhere, you meet that special someone. A person that you could potentially see yourself spending the rest of your life with has finally found you. As you all really begin to work towards building your relationship, other people start to ease their way into the picture. These individuals try to tempt you into doing something that could potentially ruin your relationship. Even though it’s hard to do for some, the battle against temptation can be overcome.

As I scanned through my Twitter page one day, I ran across a tweet from someone that I follow. The tweet read “Every time you try to get your act together things (people) start popping up”. This comment made we think for a second. Is it really that hard to focus all of your attention on one person? Or do we make it hard for ourselves to do so?

It is true that some tempters are a little more aggressive than others. There are people out there who get a sick thrill out of throwing themselves at those that they know are married or seriously involved with someone. Because these tempters are all over the place, it is up to you to avoid them at all cost.

One of the easiest ways to fight temptation is to avoid tempting situations all together. If you know your co-worker has a thing for you, why would you accept their offer to take you out to dinner? You already know what their intentions are so stay as far away as possible. No, you don’t have to be rude or nasty to them about it but just simply let them know what the deal is. You are involved with someone and can’t not pursue anything with them.

Sometimes, I think people enjoy giving in to temptation. It’s almost like they feel as if they are missing out on something. If that’s the case, then maybe those individuals should remain single. Then they can indulge in all the “temptation” that they want to without feeling guilty about it afterwards.

No one ever said fighting temptation was an easy thing to do. It takes a lot of discipline, self-control and maturity. At the end of the day, it all comes down to how much the person means to you. If this is a person that you truly care about and have a high level of respect for, the “tempters” won’t succeed at distracting you. Nobody forces you to give in to temptation; that is a personal choice. So if you can’t look temptation straight in the face and say “No thank you, but I’m seeing someone” then you may have a bigger problem than you think. Bottom line is, once you meet that person who is truly worth your time and effort, nothing will get in the way of what you two have. It’s so hard nowadays to find good, genuine people, especially for us sisters. So once you find that individual, fighting temptation won’t be nearly as hard as for you to do.

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