By: Amanda Anderson
Wigs are a significant part of our culture, and women will spend thousands on wigs, weaves, and tracks every year to keep up their costly beauty regime. Lacefronts have become the new standard of urban beauty, as some of the biggest stars of Black Hollywood such as Beyonce, Tyra Banks, Trina, Nicki Minaj and many others; have initiated a movement in the beauty industry that has women everywhere spending their hard earned money to mimic the celebrity standard of beauty.
While we may feel like we look damn good, men have silently held in their disgust for our attachment to authentic hair pieces for years. We have made weave manufacturers a fortune with our addiction to false beauty, yet men don’t seem to find anything attractive about our obsession to wigs and weaves.
When I decided to ask a few men how they felt about wigs, I was shocked to learn that they find wigs and weave to be repulsive.
Here are some of the most interesting responses I received, and as usual, I will leave them nameless since they wouldn’t participate if I threw them under a bus:
“In my opinion, wigs make women look cheap. They look completely fake and there is nothing genuine about them. I don’t like wigs because they take away from the true beauty of the person wearing the wig.”
“I’m sorry, I love black women, but ya’ll look absolutely ridiculous in wigs. I mean, black women don’t even have that type of hair naturally! Even if you have a relaxer, your hair is not going to look like a white woman’s hair. To me, it doesn’t even take all of that to be beautiful. What’s wrong with wearing your own hair? I mean, do you hate your own hair that much that you’d rather wear some other woman’s hair instead? It looks cheap and it looks ridiculous. I love a woman who has enough confidence to be herself and wear her own hair. And that’s the type of woman I will date. Sorry, I can’t deal with lacefronts. I don’t care how gorgeous a woman is. I like my women natural.”
“I don’t like wigs, weaves, tracks, or any of that stuff really. I want to see your hair, I mean you get to see mine. Just don’t make it an everyday thing.”
“Wigs are fine if you’re going out, but they have to come off when you are intimate. And it’s nothing less attractive than watching a woman pull her wig off. I mean, she doesn’t even look the same without having the wig on.”
“Women look stupid in wigs. You can always tell when they have a wig on, and it is a huge turn off for me. If I can feel your tracks when I rub my fingers through your hair, I am completely turned off.”
“The truth is women overdo it with all of these wigs, weaves, and make-up. I don’t know if they do it for us, but honestly, we don’t even like all that stuff. We like our women natural-no weaves, wigs and little to no make-up. Yeah, we like to see you sexy in a dress and heels from time to time, but there’s nothing sexier than a woman in sweats and no make-up. And that’s how we feel about wigs and weaves. Just be yourself because we’ll be more attracted to you naturally.”
Who knew?
urbanbellemag 
Wow. So let me get this straight, they don't like fake hair or make-up. Sounds like we have gotten it all wrong because most of rely on all of that to impress them. It's good to know how they really feel.
I really don't blame them. Most of these wigs look a mess. Work on your real hair, and don't forsake it for weaves.
I am glad this article was posted. I feel like the black communities' perspective on beauty has really taken a toll on us especially our youth. My boyfriend has always been keen on natural beauty and always makes some really good points like how other races keep their hair the same for there whole life from birth to death. There hair never goes out of style like ours because they make sure media that their beauty is their natural beauty. Meanwhile with the Black community we are idolizing false looks which isnt our natural beauty. Also look at how much time and money we waste in our community on hair !! It's a joke … we spend $4 billion dollars a year in haircare (from my mkting book)…. why can't we just wear our natural hair like everyone else. On top of that we spend so much time doing our hair we miss out on opportunities… every other race is getting ahead because instead of taking time to get a sew in or straighten their natural hair in the morning they are out networking, looking up the mornings current events, looking at possible investments while we are still at home trying to get our hair "right". First we need to start off by showing our real beauty which is out natural beauty. I couldnt believe when I was walking out the store I was speaking to this lady about her hair she had a baby fro told her it was beautiful and what did she do to get the curls to stay in all day … and this man made a comment like you like how unkept hair looks that's odd…. I told him that it wasnt unkept its true beauty. Our hair is strong and volumous. We need to turn this around quick in our community because we could be using that 4 billion dollars to start businesses …. put our children through graduate schools …. traveling the world …. not on a false image.
Oh please. Black women are doing this stuff because the see black men with women who have "long, flowing" hair. Look at this site and the virtually every woman highlighted has either relaxed or weaved hair. I'm certain they aren't doing it because it feels good to have it done either. They are doing it because it is THE STANDARD OF BEAUTY the we confront every day of the week whether viewing black or white media of any kind.
@ 10:55"Look at this site and the virtually every woman highlighted has either relaxed or weaved hair."_______________________________________________________________First thanks for visiting the site. But I can tell you are NOT a regular here because if you were, you would have noticed on the right hand side of your screen that there is a natural hair care section of this magazine. So go ahead hon, take a look to your right before saying that this magazine ONLY highlights relaxed hair and weaves. That is absolutely false.Secondly, most of the staff here WEARS natural hair. No weaves, NATURAL HAIR. I'm one of the founders and I myself haven't had a relaxer or weaves in over a year.And lastly, most black women are forsaking weaves and relaxers. That's why we have an entire section dedicated to natural hair. That also explains why we use PLENTY of pictures with women wearing un-relaxed hair. In fact, OUR LOGO even features a woman with natural hair.So I'm not sure where that comment came from. Again, you must be reading the mag for the first time, because your comments were totally off.Please learn more about the mag before making false claims.These men were just giving their opinions on weave. Sorry, they don't like it. Outside of Hollywood, most real men despise fake hair. Be happy that men prefer some hint of natural in women. That's a GOOD thing. I also suggest that you stop looking to the media to represent how black men feel…the media will bamboozle you. We're (the media) very powerful.Oh and as far as the whole standard of beauty thing, natural hair is even becoming the NEW STANDARD in mainstream media. Look at most of the black models in the larger Ad campaigns.Every black woman doesn't feel the need to fit the standards of others. I set my own, and wear my natural hair. In fact, PLENTY of black women do.
Weave is overrated. Do men still prefer long hair? Sure. But they'd rather it be long hair growing from your own scalp. I don't understand why we get so defensive that men prefer that we just wear our own hair. I suggest we take care of our real hair, and stop throwing money away on weaves and wigs. Most of it doesn't look good anyway.
Black men claim they like natural hair, but they really like altered natural hair such as relaxed or straightened. I can barely get a black man to look my way when I where my natural curls, but if it's bone straight they come running.
As a woman who went natural now for 6years I have to say that in my experience black men seem to prefer women with weaved hair than natural. If they want a natural sista they of course want those who are blessed with thick long tresses whether it is pressed or in dreadlocks. Also I am a black woman who is not a "natural beauty". I sorry but I need the makeup! lol! As far as hair I will never have long, thick hair but I like being natural. I want to bring out the "best" features that I can and for me that requires wigs,weaves, and makeup to even get male attention. By the way I do love my self for those who will assume otherwise. I am just stating my experiences and the reality that is set before me and my encounters. The black men that like natural women kudos to you but don't get upset at women who are doing what they feel will make them feel better or be accepted by the opposite sex. After all it was the black man that voiced the beauty standard that is set for us today. You are the ones that state in media(music, movies,etc) the physical features that you consider to be beautiful. Those of us who are not considered beautiful strive to be beautiful to receive its benefits.(i.e. attention, jobs,marriage, etc)
I agree with 8:21 am. Many black men say that they don't like fake hair, on the other hand they chase women with long hair or European features. I say rebel and define your own beauty. Who cares what black men think? If he can't see your beauty then he can't see the beauty that helped create his blackness. It is a shame that so many non-black men can see our beauty and our own ppl can't. I don't waste my time loving or pursuing those who don't fully accept my natural self. If a non-black man can love me for me then he really deserves me!