Is chasing a man the way to find love?

By: Taren Vaughan

When you first meet a guy, he has all the time in the world for you. He makes the first moves when it comes to going out places together. If he misses a phone call from you, he returns it the same day or even within minutes if he’s not too tied up. You both do a good job of meeting each other half way. But then things begin to change and the chase is on. He decides to contact you whenever he gets good and ready to. And every time you make a suggestion to go out somewhere, he throws an excuse at you as to why he can’t make it. You almost feel like you have to beg him to spend time with you.

Should have to chase after a man that claims to have a genuine interest in you?

It has been said for ages that if a man really wants to be with you, then he will be the initiator when it comes to making things between you and him happen. Making arrangements for dates and making a point to keep in contact with you on the regular are ways of him doing that. A man who has a true interest in you will go out of his way to make sure that he is successful in getting you and keeps you happy thereafter. But if it is the other way around and you as the woman are doing everything and your man-to-be is on some “catch me if you can” type of stuff, then something is terribly wrong with that picture.

Sometimes we have to stop and think for a second. Is this guy really worth the chase? Is his kind really that rare to the point where you feel like you have to run after him? What are you afraid of? That another “lucky” lady might snatch him up? I wouldn’t worry too much about that. That probably won’t happen considering that fact that he’d probably run from her too.

After an extended period of time, the “cat and mouse” game will get pretty played out. And bottom line is a man should ultimately go after you. Oh I’m sorry, did I sound too old school for a minute? What was I thinking to suggest that a man actually pursue a woman instead her taking the lead? Let’s be real here, we as women take on that role a little too often as the pursuers and we don’t allow the men to come our way willingly. And that’s not how it should go down. Plus, I was informed by a very reliable source that men like the thrill of chasing a woman and are severely turned off when she takes on that role.

With the way the dating pool is now, a lot of women don’t mind chasing a guy who they feel is worth their time and efforts. “I have to get him before someone else beats me to it,” they say. Yes, women outnumber men by a lot here in the United States. That is a fact so there is no argument there. But is it really all that bad to the point where we have to take such desperate measures? When we find a man that we somewhat have taken a liking to and he claims to feel the same way, it shouldn’t be such a hassle to keep him around. Nor should you drive yourself crazy trying to make something work that obviously wasn’t meant to be in the first place.

Quite frankly, chasing after a man can become very tiring and down right disappointing. And nine times out of ten, you will come up empty handed every time you have to take that route to get him. That’s a never ending race that you are running there honey. It’s time to fall back and become a little more patient. That’s much easier said than done of course, but it will surely save you a lot of energy. No matter how smart he is, how fine he is and how much money he has pouring out of his pockets; if a man is as interested in you as he claims to be, let him come to you. After all, you yourself are worth the chase and shouldn’t have to resort to running after any man, period.

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